How To Have The Hardest Conversations Of Your Life - Jefferson Fisher - #1093

0:00Why do you think people are struggling with the communication?

0:02Because it's something that wasn't taught to them.

0:04It was only modeled.

0:06And a lot of people didn't have good models.

0:09They had people in their lives that saw conflict as something that they had to have in order to feel close to each other.

0:17They saw how yelling was the only way to possibly stop something or maybe get physical was the only way to prove a point.

0:24And so there's a lot of people who haven't had communication modeled well in their life.

0:29And there's a lot of books you can read and there's a lot of things you can do, but not until you've actually done it, can you ever start actually improving in it?

0:36It's like that Mike Tyson quote, everybody's got a plan until you get punched in the face.

0:39Yeah, until you get popped in the mouth.

0:40Yeah, yeah, yeah.

0:41Lots of people fear conflict, but in communication especially.

0:46Why is it so scary?

0:47Why is conflict so hard to navigate?

0:50It takes courage.

0:52People feel like yelling and being aggressive.

0:56That's strength.

0:57It's not.